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Blogger Linda Ikeji finally opens up about her son and his baby daddy Jeremi Sholaye


Two days before my 38th birthday on September 17th, I welcomed my first child, my son, Jayce. I look at him and I wonder why I waited so long to have a child. I’ve never known love like this. I literally have tears in my eyes every time I look at him. I can’t believe he came out of me. He is by far my greatest blessing and I’m looking forward to navigating him through life!

Now to the reason why you are reading this. I argued with myself for a long time whether to put this out or not…and finally decided it was a story I wanted to share. I’ve always been open about my life but I’m sharing details about my personal life mostly because of the girls who look up to me. The girls I have mentored, mentoring right now and plan to mentor in the future. I’m very particular about our young girls and I have personally tried over the years to be an example in some way; tried to teach these girls how to fight for their dreams, how to live right and do right and then I go and have a child out of wedlock and that must be a little confusing to some of them and especially with so many untruthful stuff out there about me. The most hilarious is that I had a child for a married man. Lol. Here’s my answer to that! The married man that I will sleep with has not yet been born. If he’s been born, he will die, be buried, rise and die again before he will lay with me. I don’t do married men. The father of my child is a single man and his name is Sholaye Jeremi. To be honest, at some point I thought he was my final bus stop but you know how life happens…lol. Unfortunately he and I are a completely closed chapter. Sadly for our son Jayce, it’s the kind of chapter that can’t ever be opened again.

One of the things many people have asked me is how I met this man because we don’t run in the same circle. Well, I met him 3 years ago at Wheatbaker Restaurant in Ikoyi in December 2015 shortly after I moved to my home in Banana Island, Ikoyi. It was a day after Christmas and I was having dinner with friends when he walked in. He saw me and the rest is history. He claimed at the time that he had never heard of me which was seriously a turn-on for me because up until then I’d only been meeting men who behaved like fans. At the time we met, I was 35 and he was 37 and I’d been single for nearly 4 years. I was definitely searching and I fell in love almost immediately and so we became an item.

At the time I met him he lived in a 3-bedroom flat at what used to be 5th roundabout in Lekki after Mobil. I used to drive for almost two hours in traffic from my house to go see him. Most of the time, I carried my laptop to his home to enable me to work and at the same time spend the whole day with him.


It was a whirlwind romance. He was the funniest and most romantic guy I’d met up until that point, so it was easy to fall in love and I truly believed the feeling was mutual. A few weeks after we met, it seemed like we were planning a future together. This man was already calling me Linda Ikeji Jeremi and making all these plans but then just like that, it was over between us. I went from waking up every morning to love text messages from him to no more calls. I was just thanking God for finally sending me my own man when all of a sudden we were no longer talking to each other. Later he would tell me what scared him off. My public life. He claims he’s a private business man and didn’t want the attention being with me would bring to him and I told him I understood and we went our separate ways. We tried to get back together in 2016 but it didn’t work out so much so we separated again but stayed in touch (mostly him to be honest), stayed friends and that was how our back and forth started.


By mid-2017, we were both still single and we started seeing each other again quietly. There were times it was very intense and we talked about a future together, and there were times that I couldn’t figure out what exactly I was doing with this guy. We were not suited for each other. Totally different lifestyles. And there was the problem of my fame. I walked away from this man a million times and he came after me a million and one times. No matter how much I pushed him away, he kept coming back and me, because I couldn’t find anyone else, I kept going back. Lol. So I was basically going back to my ex because I couldn’t find anyone else. *sigh*.


Then I fell pregnant. It wasn’t planned, it just happened; though we talked about having a child together just two months before I fell pregnant. He said something about putting a billionaire baby inside me and I remember jokingly telling him that I’m also a billionaire so our child was going to be a billionaire on both side…and we laughed. But after I fell pregnant, things became extremely weird between us. If I tried to explain what happened, I wouldn’t be able to because it was confusing to me. We went from talking about the pregnancy and being okay with it; he even suggested I go to Dubai for my pre-natals as he didn’t trust doctors in Nigeria, to literally not talking to each other anymore. Around when I was about three months pregnant, he did come to see my parents and actually became very cool with my dad. They were literally exchanging Whatsapp messages every day. He later agreed to a traditional wedding which he didn’t follow through and then he switched. He began to treat me with so much hate and aggression that I and my family had to cut him off completely.


To be honest if anybody had told me when we met three years ago, considering how deeply we cared for each other that I would fall pregnant two years later and he would completely turn his back on me for most part of my pregnancy, I never would have believed it but that’s what happened. I had to draw strength from myself, my family and close friends.


And Jayce…oh my son Jayce, he was my biggest strength. It was almost as if he knew his dad was acting up so he came through for his mum. He was gentle with me when I was carrying him. I had an extremely easy pregnancy. I pushed him out under 3 mins and was in the labour room for less than 30 minutes. And then my snapback was amazing. Three weeks later, it was almost as if I’d never been pregnant. Jayce was my soldier when his dad turned his back.


But still, I have absolutely no iota of regret meeting Sholaye. Gosh, have you seen Jayce? How can I regret that? God doesn’t make mistakes. If you believe that you’re always led by God like I believe then I have to believe that God led me to this man for whatever reasons best known to Him. I thought God sent him as my life partner but I guess He just used him as a vessel for my greatest blessing. Now his part in my story is over. I know when to put my hands up and surrender. That God brought someone significant into your life doesn’t mean they are supposed to follow you throughout your life’s journey. We should learn to know when people’s part in our story is over. Don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers, just let them go and know that if God meant for you to have them in your life, He would have given them to you. Sometimes people just come to serve a purpose in your life and are not meant to stay and there’s no point holding on to them. This one is done and dusted. It’s just Jayce and I now moving forward and I know life will be beautiful for us.


Being a single mum wasn’t the dream I had for myself; I’d prayed for the kind of happy home my parents built for us (they’ve been together for 40 years). Nothing is more important to me than family. For years I’d hammered on how much I was looking forward to getting married, having children and building my own family and I believed God was going to come through for me on that one, but I have come to understand that we have no control over what life throws at us no matter how much we plan, pray, or work. And we also have no control over the actions of other people towards us. One of the things I have learnt in my life’s journey is that your idea of how life should go might be different from the way life actually goes. It’s called Life Happening. Sometimes it unfolds into something we never dreamed of but because we don’t recognize the route we find ourselves on our journey through life, doesn’t mean God won’t get us to our destination. Remember, an uncertain chapter doesn’t ruin the whole book. Life will happen whether we are ready or not. All we can do is keep our heads up and keep moving.


Family and close friends told me I owed no one any explanation about the circumstances that led to the birth of my son, but I knew without writing this, I could never stand in front of the young girls who look up to me and talk to them again. I could never go on my secondary school tour and speak with these girls again about living right and doing right. I would always feel like I have no moral right to do so. I went to 15 secondary schools in 2017 and talking to those young impressionable girls has been one of the highlights of my life. I cancelled this year’s tour because I was pregnant and I haven’t made any preparations for next year’s tour because I wanted to set things right first.


I have so many plans for young girls next year and in the coming years with the Selfmade finance and mentorship projects with international collaborations, so this was important for me to do, to explain myself to the young girls who look up to me and feel disappointed that I got pregnant and had a baby out of wedlock. For years, I have preached decency, morality and uprightness and despite what happened to me, I mean it from the bottom of my heart. That should be the only way to live. That’s the only way I live. Don’t ever compromise your values. With this, I was led by my heart and my clock ticking and even though I have no regrets, I’m sorry if I let any of you ladies down by the decision I made, and I hope you learn from my experience. I hope you do better than I did. The ideal thing would be to find a man you love, who loves you back and gives you stability, get married, have kids and raise a family, not being a single mum or a baby mama. I was 37 years old at the time I conceived and if I want to be honest, my age played a role in me allowing myself to be pregnant out of wedlock. I don’t want to be having kids in my 40s or struggling with fertility later in life. This wasn’t the plan but like I said before, life happens. You just have to find a way to make the best of what life throws at you. And so for any young girl this means anything to, I am truly sorry. I am not sorry I had Jayce, I’m just sorry I didn’t go about it the right way.


But you know, despite this crazy love experience, I still believe in love and I believe in happy endings and I can’t wait to one day, God willing, have my fairy tale ending. The father of my child is the only man I’ve given a chance to in 6 years. Lol. I swear. I’m not really a relationship kind of girl. I’m more a career girl. I can go for years without a man. I’m one of those women who don’t need a man to validate their existence but biko, I’ve done the single life enough in the past…lol… going forward I’m looking forward to giving someone else a chance and try this love thing again. I was raised in a happy 2-parents’ home and that’s what I want for Jayce. So I hope I meet a great guy soon until then I’m enjoying motherhood. It rocks! Life has never been more beautiful!


I’d also like to address a few other issues. Number one is this celibacy issue. So many people have trolled me over it and I’d like to correct the misunderstanding. I have never ever in my life said people shouldn’t have se.x before marriage. NEVER EVER have I said that. I have even argued with quite a few people that it is not feasible in this day and age. What I have always said and I maintain till today is; Do not ever sleep with men for money because any woman with a brain and determination can get her own money herself. And there’s nothing sweeter than your own money. I am 38 years old and I recently bought a N100million+ car; what the heck do you need to be sleeping with a man for? For designer bags, first class tickets and luxury holidays? GTFOH with sleeping with a man for rent money! You can give yourself all that and more if you apply yourself, fight for your dream and work your butt off. Men don’t have the exclusive right to create wealth; women can also create wealth. Money is not male. Wealth is not male. Success is not male. We women just need to believe in ourselves more and get off our butts and stop relying on our looks and charm instead of our brain, mind, will, and our God given talent/gift. We can be rich, we can be successful, we can break barriers, do what was formerly termed impossible, do what men can do, be CEOs of conglomerates and billionaires without ever having to lie on our backs. Please ladies, we are powerful beyond measure and can do anything and be anything we want to be.


The other thing I’ve always said is; do not sleep around with multiple men who just use your body for their pleasure; that is; too many one night stands, casual se.x, many se.x partners in a short period of time all in the name of relationships. Your body deserves better. I feel se.x should only happen when you’re in a loving, committed relationship with someone you love. I was celibate for many years until I met my son’s father and fell in love. And instead of increasing my body count, I just went back to the same eggplant…lol. My mistake was I should have walked away when the relationship became a waste…lol… but then again, Jayce wouldn’t be here today if I had. So really, there’s nothing that I have preached that I didn’t practice. So you guys stop trolling me over this abeg! Lol.


Thank you for reading and thank you for your understanding.

Love and kisses to you and yours



Source- Linda Ikeji blog


  1. huh. Your story is very touching and really this happens . it is similar to mine but my husband stayed. he has his mother advice and especially GOD ‘s Grace. God is still on his throne and LINDA Iyanu si ma sele! by God’s Grace.

  2. Thank you Linda Ikeji. You are a role model indeed and nobody has the right to judge you. My family and I join you in welcoming your son, Jayce, to the world. The world will spell good for him all his days, in Jesus’ Name. Once again, thank you for what you did on your TV/Blog on Adesola Kemi Fadehan’s negligent death in the hands of LASUTH doctors. Keep on serving humanity. Fadehan Olanrewaju

  3. Thank so much for this Linda, reading through have made me to change my mind about you, you’re strong admired and most of all loved by me .I really appreciate this, and will really love to meet you in person. Well done.

  4. Linda am touched by your story. you are really what i want to look up to as a role model. linda i wish i was strong as you to let go. but with this story i know am stronger.
    my stories are more pathetic than yours but i also know their will also come a time where i can share my story. i may not have it all but God got my back. Thanks Sister for sharing your story.

  5. Thanks for the right up but I totally disagree with you that in this present age that we can do with out se.x, se.x is mend to be between legally married people any se.x out of wedlock is a sin. That is if you are a true Christian and you know what you are doing in christ. se.x is a covenant and any se.x with any person person you are not legal marriage with is sin and can kill destiny and lead to some disastrous. Keep away from unprotected and not legal se.x, that what you are suppose to preach to the girls who look up to you as a role model. I advise you forgive and make up with father of your son, as that you guys will be happily married.

  6. To err is human but, to forgive is divine. Nothing happens for nothing and I’m glad you’re on top of the situation. Keep doing you and be the best facet of yourself. You joy will be full someday.
    I wish you the best in life and hope to get a chance to talk with you.
    God bless Linda Ikeji, God bless us.

  7. As the saying goes, it’s good to hear both sides of a story before concluding on any matter. It’s quite unfortunate not to hear from the baby’s father as of yet although you did said he is accustomed to his lifestyle of privacy but this is not convincing enough to me. Anyways, I hope things work out between the two of you despite your declaration that it is over. To be candid, I think your ego is somehow broken & it is one of the reasons that have caused you to present this write-up. I understand your pain as a woman & moreover; the reality that you are a celebrity has compelled you to make clarifications through this medium. I respect your courage because if it were to be a male celebrity, he may not care & people could be less concerned. What do I mean by saying your ego is somehow broken? I can remember vividly when you once wrote you prefer to have a man who earns as much or more than you. If a guy earns less income compared to yours does not mean he lacks ambitions. You have forgotten the fact some women (affluent or not) actually settle with their men or spouses because of the spirit of family building which these women have prioritized. These women in quote would prefer to go through thick & thin with their men/spouses to have stable homes for future sake. If it means to support their homes financially in secrecy, no third party would hear about their deeds.
    Nevertheless, I celebrate you & I want you to cherish what God has given you, enjoy your motherhood! Some women are out there desperate/willing to have children irrespective of how it comes,whether given birth to kids come through marriage or wedlock, they just want offsprings.

  8. Good that she admitted that we are humans and we can’t always live life the way we planned. It’s not too late to find love. Love is there always. Keep empowering and educating our ladies. Many of them need help on this issue of over dependency on men. Let them get value and know that they can be CEOs too and not just girlfriends and side chics. Good for her to apologise to the people she may have disappointed.

  9. I salute your courage Linda. However, I think it was unwise and wrong to have indulged in unprotected se.x or even se.x at all with a man you were not yet married to. You shouldn’t have done such a mistake at your age. Assuming you’re not doing well or working and you find yourself having a baby out of wedlock, how would you have coped?

  10. You’re so strong. Only few can do what you did…teach others from their mistakes.
    It’s well dearie. Keep up the good work and don’t be submerged.
    It’ll be a success story in the end.
    I’m really inspired… Thanks for this. Regards to baby Joyce.

  11. Linda you are an amazing woman .I wish I was that privilege to be the Mr right …..the father of your child doesn’t know what he has missed. I know most women can be very disrespectful a times but I believe even the worse or baddest lady can be handle by a man.
    I wish you best in life .

  12. You are loved and will always be loved, forget the past and move on with ur life, if it is the will of God for ur baby papa to come back to u, he will, for now trust God to uphold u

  13. Congratulations on your bundle of joy….forget all d gossips nd trolls it’s one of those things. You will definitely find love again just hold on to God nd as for ur baby’s father u jst can’t close dt chapter cos u hv a bond/link “Jayce ” so forgive him.

  14. Well written, well said. I hope other readers will believe you. Life is full of unpredictable. Keep doing what you do best. You will end up pleasantly surprised by the Creator of the universe. Have fun. Enjoy.

  15. Good day here! Sorry I used to receive daily news and gists from you guys on my BBM (58E1FFFC) but unfortunately I couldn’t receive any again, please is any way I can reconnect again ? cos I have missed the headlines Newspaper and gists from you guys, one love

  16. hmmm,
    Dr. Linda, I must praise your strength and courage, its not easy to do what you have just done. well done.
    But, whether u do what you preached or preach what you do, I still disagree with the fact that se.x with the someone you love before marriage is normal. Its not, and will never be, even if we all in the world are doing it does not make it right.
    It is morally and Spiritually wrong to indulge in such act before marriage either with the one someone loves or not.
    So its right to advice our young girls to do the right thing if they can.
    Thank you

    and once again congratulation

  17. You have a good story to tell about your life,Linda but I have good news for you, it’s not yet over with the father of your baby. With my experience as a father and a husband who have been in similar situation albeit not exactly, I want to tell you that raising adorable Jayce your son is far more than wealth. If only I have the opportunity to exchange correspondence with Linda on one hand, and Jeremi on the other hand, I am sure things would change for the better. Linda I surely know that you are laughing your heart out, but God has chosen the foolish things of this world to shame the wise. I know better because I have been in a worse position and I understand where and how it hurts

  18. This is wonderful I rely pity the way life treated you. But withstanding God still bring you back to line of life. Keep moving God is your power baby.

  19. At first, I was trying to figure out her reasons for putting this out, but it was clear when she talked about coming out straight to the young girls to who look up to her as role model. It’s true! Like I say, “you shouldn’t care less how you live your life, coz some people draw strength looking at you”. Well said and congratulations o


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