During the week, Ufuoma McDermott marked her birthday and she received heartwarming messages and several accolades from her family, friends, and fans. One of the most heartwarming messages came from her children, who sang for her as they licked their ice cream.
Ufuoma couldn’t enjoy the moment alone, so she posted the heartwarming video on Instagram and unsurprisingly, fans were quick to celebrate her children. But unknown to several of her fans, she would have lost her son while she was in labour if she had not listened to her medical doctor.
In an exclusive chat she had with Saturday Beats, she revealed that both her children were born by caesarean section. She said it is ignorance that would make a woman ignore CS simply because she wants to act as a strong ‘Hebrew woman’.
She said, “Both of my children were born by caesarean section and I still feel very proud of motherhood. My children are my treasure and pride. I don’t think anyone should decide how a child is brought into the world because complications sometimes warrant CS. If everything is good, then the doctor would insist on a normal birth.
“At any point in time, motherhood is motherhood. It makes me laugh when people say that women who have a CS are not strong women. It is amazing how ignorant some people are. My son, for example, was conceived through in vitro fertilisation and when it was time for delivery, there was a breach, which means that the head of the child was up in the uterus as against it being down, so it was not advisable to push at the time.
“I’m glad that I listened to the doctor because, by the time my son was brought out, he had his placenta around his neck. If I had pushed, I might have strangled him. I think it is ignorance when someone comes out to say that she is a strong woman so she has to do normal child delivery. Yet, I am patient with people because I got to a point where I was enlightened.
“Most people that say they are Hebrew women speak from what they have been taught by their mothers and grandmothers. They have been told that if they do not have the normal childbirth, then they are not Hebrew women. These women can be forgiven because the truth is that a mother is always a mother. When it comes to the process of childbirth, you cannot take away the pain that comes with it whether it is by CS or normal delivery; you would feel the pain whether it is before, during or after childbirth.”
She also noted that even though she delivered her child by CS, she was able to walk the second day just because she wanted to catch a glimpse of her newborn.
“CS is actually a stitch, it is a wound and it takes time to heal but in my case, I was already walking by the second day after giving birth to my son. The labour ward was different from where they kept my son and I could not sleep because I wanted to see him. I was a new mother, the nurses told me to stay put, but I did not listen. I was crying as I dragged myself on the staircase to see my son. In all of it, I think we should just appreciate mothers because they go through a lot. Even if it is an adoption, a mother is a mother and you cannot take that away from her.”